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Thursday, April 21, 2011

being offended is a choice.

Kenna adopted her baby.
I didn't adopt my babies.

Kenna is a stay at home Mommy.
I am a working Mommy.

Kenna is funny.
I try to be funny.

Kenna has awesome parents.
I don't have my parents.

Even though we are different, we are friends.

Kenna could be offended because I can get pregnant, and I complain to her about how much I hate being pregnant.

I could be offended because Kenna talks about not wanting to be a stay at home Mommy, and I dream of the day I can be one.

By making an effort to not be offended by these things, we are besties in the making!

A few months ago, I was offended by a talk in church.  Gasp!  Yup, the girl that doesn't get offended...I went and got all up in a huff over a stupid talk.  I haven't stopped thinking about it, stewing over how mad it made me, and when I see him...I give him my best glare!  Do you think he even knows it made me mad?  Nope.  Do you think he even sees my best glare?  Nope.  So...who am I really hurting in the process?  ME!

Can you imagine if we all had the same problems?  The same situation?  Reacted the same to every situation?  Booorrring! 

Not that I am saying Kenna should up and have another surgery in the near future, because she has definitely had enough excitement...but I like to talk about the silver lining...I met Kenna the first time in a hospital after having one of her surgeries!  It was an excuse to sit on a plastic couch, and talk...and love on her cute son!  (Who, by the way, loooved me! AND yes I am bragging!)

I was there for Kenna when she lost all hope to have children grow inside her.  It is hard, I don't know the right words...but I am here for her.  Even though I don't comprehend what that feels like, we can still be friends.

She has listened to me complain about going to work, and missing my family.  Even though her problem is not my problem...she listened, and has been there for me.

After all...that is what friends are for, right?

Who could be your friend that isn't, because you are too busy being offended?

This is one of those life lessons that is easier said than done, I realize I will probably still cringe when I see the guy at church.  I might even have a come apart on him...one day. 

Good thing I will have Kenna to complain to when it all goes down!

9 comments:

kenna said...

i. love. you.

that is all folks.

dust and kam said...

Again, so true.

thank you.

Emily said...

You are wise beyond your years. Heck, you are even wise beyond my years--and those are a lot of years!

Kristina P. said...

I think she just commented on my blog! I have yet to visit her, but I absolutely will!

AubreyMo said...

Kenna, Kamie. . .Even you, Evonne. I can't pretend that I can even comprehend what you all go through as mothers. And what my dear friends go through in their struggles to become or be parents. But I can be here to listen - and you all give back tenfold when I need an ear. I love you gals.

Jerilee E. said...

another great post :). you inspire me! thank you for linking to Kenna's blog. Going through so much and STILL being HILarious! love it. Now I know what a uterus really looks like.

Lyle Family said...

A BIG THANK YOU!!! And just because!

Greg and Heather said...

Now all I can think of is...who is this guy and what did he talk about? HAHA! AND...couldn't agree more on all the other stuff. :)

Allred Family said...

I totally agree with everything....you have NO idea!!! And like Heather now all i can think of is Who is this Guy and What did he talk about....